Category Archives: Men

Things on my mind #3: I’ve been rethinking lately

Our stories are what make us. These stories helped shape how I think about men and women.

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Things on my mind #3: I’ve been rethinking lately

Our stories are what make us. These stories helped shape how I think about men and women.

Legalized Prostitution is a Failure

In the past decade or so, several countries, including the Netherlands and Germany, have toyed with legalizing prostitution. They did so because it was argued that legitimizing the industry would lead to greater health regulations and protections for sex workers. It was thought that legalization would lessen the stigma to sex work, reduce human trafficking and result in a win-win-win: prostitutes, customers (“johns” or “punters”) and society would all be better off.

Ten years into the experiment and none of those things have come to pass, according to a detailed (read: lengthy) article in Germany’s Der Spiegel magazine. The article is here and well worth a read. But as it spans five pages, I’ll try to sum it up as best I can.

Legalized Prostitution is a Failure

In the past decade or so, several countries, including the Netherlands and Germany, have toyed with legalizing prostitution. They did so because it was argued that legitimizing the industry would lead to greater health regulations and protections for sex workers. It was thought that legalization would lessen the stigma to sex work, reduce human trafficking and result in a win-win-win: prostitutes, customers (“johns” or “punters”) and society would all be better off.

Ten years into the experiment and none of those things have come to pass, according to a detailed (read: lengthy) article in Germany’s Der Spiegel magazine. The article is here and well worth a read. But as it spans five pages, I’ll try to sum it up as best I can.

My Trust Issues with Men, Part III: With Friends Like That…

Of all the reasons I mistrust men, this is the worst of them. It’s the worst because it is the harshest betrayal. It’s the worst because it shook my faith that men could ever be trusted at all. If these “male feminists” are the ones who call us their friends, what can we expect from the ones who declare us their enemy?

My Trust Issues with Men, Part III: With Friends Like That…

Of all the reasons I mistrust men, this is the worst of them. It’s the worst because it is the harshest betrayal. It’s the worst because it shook my faith that men could ever be trusted at all. If these “male feminists” are the ones who call us their friends, what can we expect from the ones who declare us their enemy?

My Trust Issues With Men, Part II: Un-Gentlemanly Callers

One of the first thing a hotline volunteer learns on the job is that many of the calls that come in are made by the same group of people. We call them regulars. They may call once a week, once a day or even once an hour. Many of these regulars really do need help. Some are paranoid schizophrenics. Some are chronically lonely. I truly believed that being on the other end of that phone line for them was worthwhile.

But then there’s another sort of regular. We called them the masturbators.

My Trust Issues With Men, Part II: Un-Gentlemanly Callers

One of the first thing a hotline volunteer learns on the job is that many of the calls that come in are made by the same group of people. We call them regulars. They may call once a week, once a day or even once an hour. Many of these regulars really do need help. Some are paranoid schizophrenics. Some are chronically lonely. I truly believed that being on the other end of that phone line for them was worthwhile.

But then there’s another sort of regular. We called them the masturbators.

My Trust Issues with Men, Part I: Male GyNO

I don’t know that I’ll ever completely trust a male doctor with that again. I just don’t think a lot of them get it.

My Trust Issues with Men, Part I: Male GyNO

I don’t know that I’ll ever completely trust a male doctor with that again. I just don’t think a lot of them get it.