Category Archives: 20s

Things on my mind #3: I’ve been rethinking lately

Our stories are what make us. These stories helped shape how I think about men and women.

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Things on my mind #3: I’ve been rethinking lately

Our stories are what make us. These stories helped shape how I think about men and women.

Not Inconceivable: Pregnancy after Rape

At least I can’t get pregnant.

This was the thought in my mind when my rapist anally penetrated me. At least I can’t get pregnant. In the midst of the horror I endured, I clung to that thought. What was happening was excruciating, terrifying. But at least I wouldn’t get pregnant. Because becoming pregnant after this would have been even worse. It would have taken a six-hour long period of assault and degradation and stretched it out across nine months. It would have been a daily reminder of what he did to me. I wouldn’t be at home in my own body.

Not Inconceivable: Pregnancy after Rape

At least I can’t get pregnant.

This was the thought in my mind when my rapist anally penetrated me. At least I can’t get pregnant. In the midst of the horror I endured, I clung to that thought. What was happening was excruciating, terrifying. But at least I wouldn’t get pregnant. Because becoming pregnant after this would have been even worse. It would have taken a six-hour long period of assault and degradation and stretched it out across nine months. It would have been a daily reminder of what he did to me. I wouldn’t be at home in my own body.

Up from Bondage

But what I am saying is that this world of BDSM is more than just acts out of context. There’s a lot of philosophy in there – some good, a lot terrible. There are ideas – some harmless, some contemptible. And there is a lot of abuse. A lot.

Up from Bondage

But what I am saying is that this world of BDSM is more than just acts out of context. There’s a lot of philosophy in there – some good, a lot terrible. There are ideas – some harmless, some contemptible. And there is a lot of abuse. A lot.

Tale of Two Children

While he made a lot of noise about creating his “man cave,” he also took classes in cake decorating and baking. (And seriously, why would anyone object to that?!) He valued taking care of his nails and growing out his hair and wearing it in a ponytail. But. But! He was simultaneously strict with how the sexes should relate to each other in a marriage.

Tale of Two Children

While he made a lot of noise about creating his “man cave,” he also took classes in cake decorating and baking. (And seriously, why would anyone object to that?!) He valued taking care of his nails and growing out his hair and wearing it in a ponytail. But. But! He was simultaneously strict with how the sexes should relate to each other in a marriage.

Victim or Survivor

There’s a thought-provoking post here about what we call people who have been raped. For most of my life, people who were raped were simply “victims.” Then I went through training to work with those people – mostly women –

Victim or Survivor

There’s a thought-provoking post here about what we call people who have been raped. For most of my life, people who were raped were simply “victims.” Then I went through training to work with those people – mostly women –

My Trouble with Islam

Just minutes after he was done sexually assaulting me, the man drove me home and gave me a religious lecture along the way.

“It’s too bad you’re not a Muslim,” he said, words I will never forget or forgive. “Because god sees everything that you do, and he knows that you are a bad woman.”

My Trouble with Islam

Just minutes after he was done sexually assaulting me, the man drove me home and gave me a religious lecture along the way.

“It’s too bad you’re not a Muslim,” he said, words I will never forget or forgive. “Because god sees everything that you do, and he knows that you are a bad woman.”

So Your Husband’s a MtF Crossdresser or Transsexual…

There was talk from time to time about a “wives’ bill of rights,” which addressed things such as your right to have your husband be a man if that’s what you got on your wedding day. And your right not to have your husband steal your panties and wear them. Which is good, I guess. But I’m here to say that from my experience, at least, this was not all good times at the mall and getting our nails done side by side. In fact, it sucked. And that bill of rights needs an edit. So here I go.

So Your Husband’s a MtF Crossdresser or Transsexual…

There was talk from time to time about a “wives’ bill of rights,” which addressed things such as your right to have your husband be a man if that’s what you got on your wedding day. And your right not to have your husband steal your panties and wear them. Which is good, I guess. But I’m here to say that from my experience, at least, this was not all good times at the mall and getting our nails done side by side. In fact, it sucked. And that bill of rights needs an edit. So here I go.