Wilder

“The Link Between Rape and Pornography”

“A lot of researchers will tell you that a link can’t be made between rape and pornography, or that they’re not sure yet if one exists. “Meet someone who does know with certainty.”  

Wilder

“The Link Between Rape and Pornography”

“A lot of researchers will tell you that a link can’t be made between rape and pornography, or that they’re not sure yet if one exists. “Meet someone who does know with certainty.”  

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Not Inconceivable: Pregnancy after Rape

At least I can’t get pregnant.

This was the thought in my mind when my rapist anally penetrated me. At least I can’t get pregnant. In the midst of the horror I endured, I clung to that thought. What was happening was excruciating, terrifying. But at least I wouldn’t get pregnant. Because becoming pregnant after this would have been even worse. It would have taken a six-hour long period of assault and degradation and stretched it out across nine months. It would have been a daily reminder of what he did to me. I wouldn’t be at home in my own body.

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Not Inconceivable: Pregnancy after Rape

At least I can’t get pregnant.

This was the thought in my mind when my rapist anally penetrated me. At least I can’t get pregnant. In the midst of the horror I endured, I clung to that thought. What was happening was excruciating, terrifying. But at least I wouldn’t get pregnant. Because becoming pregnant after this would have been even worse. It would have taken a six-hour long period of assault and degradation and stretched it out across nine months. It would have been a daily reminder of what he did to me. I wouldn’t be at home in my own body.

oh bondage

Up from Bondage

But what I am saying is that this world of BDSM is more than just acts out of context. There’s a lot of philosophy in there – some good, a lot terrible. There are ideas – some harmless, some contemptible. And there is a lot of abuse. A lot.

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Up from Bondage

But what I am saying is that this world of BDSM is more than just acts out of context. There’s a lot of philosophy in there – some good, a lot terrible. There are ideas – some harmless, some contemptible. And there is a lot of abuse. A lot.

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Tale of Two Children

While he made a lot of noise about creating his “man cave,” he also took classes in cake decorating and baking. (And seriously, why would anyone object to that?!) He valued taking care of his nails and growing out his hair and wearing it in a ponytail. But. But! He was simultaneously strict with how the sexes should relate to each other in a marriage.

children books gender roles

Tale of Two Children

While he made a lot of noise about creating his “man cave,” he also took classes in cake decorating and baking. (And seriously, why would anyone object to that?!) He valued taking care of his nails and growing out his hair and wearing it in a ponytail. But. But! He was simultaneously strict with how the sexes should relate to each other in a marriage.

Women and feminism

So an Image Gets Posted on the Internet…

What am I saying? I’m saying, would you just take a fucking look at this? And this is what happens, time after time, when these arguments come around. I’m tired of it. Can you get why maybe women want a space for women-born-women only? Can you get why we don’t want these people next to us at MichFest?

Women and feminism

So an Image Gets Posted on the Internet…

What am I saying? I’m saying, would you just take a fucking look at this? And this is what happens, time after time, when these arguments come around. I’m tired of it. Can you get why maybe women want a space for women-born-women only? Can you get why we don’t want these people next to us at MichFest?

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Victim or Survivor

There’s a thought-provoking post here about what we call people who have been raped. For most of my life, people who were raped were simply “victims.” Then I went through training to work with those people – mostly women –

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Victim or Survivor

There’s a thought-provoking post here about what we call people who have been raped. For most of my life, people who were raped were simply “victims.” Then I went through training to work with those people – mostly women –

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Prepare to Retch

I don’t even know where to begin … It’s an interview of a “porn actress.” But when you listen to it, it becomes clear that it’s more than that. Quotes: “I moved in next door to this little girl and

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Prepare to Retch

I don’t even know where to begin … It’s an interview of a “porn actress.” But when you listen to it, it becomes clear that it’s more than that. Quotes: “I moved in next door to this little girl and